I was checking my feed stats on Feedburner, where I can the see the search queries that lead people to this site. Among “corruption in Honduras government” and “sick puppies net album”, one of them struck me: “How do I make the bully feel bad about teasing me?”. The answer was my post about Bullies from back in June. That made my compassionate side get all warm and fuzzy.
If you’re reading this…Let me tell you that the best way to get back at bullies is to realize they are even more afraid of you than you are of them. Therefore, you should:
1. Ignore or endure their cruelty without showing weakness. Don’t let them know they hurt you. Bullies feel weak, so they try to show they are stronger than you, if you let them. Laugh at them if you can get away with it. Don’t be a masochist though, it could get you crucified! Avoid them bravely. (Paradoxical, huh?)
2. Look for an opportunity to payback…and the way you should pay them back is by playing the guilt card. You should make them feel guilty about bullying you. Sometimes you can be kind to them, and they’ll be so surprised they won’t know what to do. Don’t trust them though. Don’t try to get the bully to pity you either, you don’t need anyone’s pity, you’re better than that. Besides, bullies are NOT compassionate. You shouldn’t befriend them…you deserve better friends.
Both these strategies send a strong message: “I am better than you”, but do so without the need to brag. You shouldn’t say it out loud, that would defeat the strategy. Just show it. You’re stronger, as a sufferer than as an inflicter of suffering. You can be morally superior, if you avoid pride. Be wise. If you do this, you’ll probably succeed.
Image by Diego Sevilla Ruiz, used under a Creative Commons license